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Let's imagine that you were dissatisfied with your kitchen. Let's imagine that some of the features of your kitchen were no longer working up to par: perhaps your refrigerator was too small for your growing family, your water pressure might be low, your dish washer not doing a very good job,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], besides the place looked dingy, beat up and shabby. It's time, you think, to make a change. Do you draw up some sketches on a paper napkin, and start tearing out the counters and cabinets, plumbing and appliances because you once made a book shelf in wood shop back in school?
Wow! It's been a long time (almost a week) since I've been able to write about all things midlife! Sometimes, events conspire to take your attention off the duties of the day-to-day world and force you to focus on what's more pressing and immediate. That's one of the great stressors of life: midlife or adult life, and even child life.
Pursue a promising extra-marital relationship. Consider telling your boss where to put your job. Give your pastimes an importance and urgency above and beyond everything else. Presto! You're in frazzled focus.
What does getting distracted from my daily routine have to do with the challenges of the midlife transition? Isn't it just a fact of life even during your (more-or-less) 'stable' periods? Yes; only at midlife the possibility of falling into frazzled focus becomes, not only a more likely occurrence, but one with more consequences as well.
As you progress into the midlife transition, and your life as you experience it becomes increasingly less satisfying (for all the dozens of reasons I've been talking about in many of my articles), you experience the need to make changes — sometimes major changes — that can thrust you quickly and easily into frazzled focus, because these changes recommend themselves as an answer to the pain of the present moment.
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I've been distracted by a return to another parallel program I'm involved in, called The Frazzled Entrepreneur and, ironically, it's nudged me over the line into what I call 'frazzled focus' where important issues have become urgent. There are serious consequences for non-performance, and those consequences are imminent. Also, as often happens in these sorts of situations, once you're thrown into frazzled focus, the precipitating causes suddenly seem to evaporate,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], leaving you up in the air, half-finished, with an urgency that's passed. Is it best to leave things half-finished to go back to your routine,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], or does it serve you better to complete the project at hand, only to put it up on the shelf? For people like me (high Myers-Briggs 'P'), it's very dangerous to leave things half-done: I never seem to make the time to get back to them.
Becoming an entrepreneur seems like the most obvious answer to your problems. At the same time, your doubts about being able to manage that undertaking — and about making a living doing it — slowly fade into the background as the pain of enduring the no-win situation you face at work grows steadily.
You've seen it before (and maybe you've even thought about it): you look at what you're doing — and all the unnecessary frustrations that go along with it — you see all the ridiculous and unreasonable hindrances that you face, you know that your a better craftsman than those around you, but you're being held back. Your restlessness, irritability and dissatisfaction are getting the best of you and, what's more, it's beginning to affect other areas of your life: your relationship, your family life, and even your health. The answer seems obvious: the importance and urgency of making a career change grows almost daily.
Here's where, especially at midlife, men (and women) make their most serious mistake: their discomfort with the present state of their affairs causes them to see an urgency to their decision-making that may not really be there at all. And this deceived sense of urgency is your ticket to making poor (unfortunate) decisions.