G-Metin2.pl - Forum portalu G-Metin2.pl (Wszystko o Metin2)

apols2d8rtan

Relationships can be complicated is pure understatement. And yet [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], rather than shy away from them, we continually seek new ones. They are the pivot point around which society, an organized pattern of relationships, is formed. An internet search brings up 255,000,000 entries for relationships! It has always been a hot topic and will remain so as long as there is more than one person on planet earth!
But for all this vast amount of material, do we really know any more about building and maintaining fulfilling relationships than we ever have? We’ve certainly studied the subject, but the same issues that divided hundreds of years ago continue to divide.
A great deal of commonsense is necessary to birth and nurture any healthy relationship. We often seek complex answers to weighty issues when true and lasting success is found in simplicity.
To begin, let’s look at seven necessary components to any healthy caring relationship. Perhaps you can assemble a more impressive, more complex list, but these comprise a core from which you can build [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], or begin rebuilding any relationship.
SELF-RESPECT. To treat oneself as worthy of attention, esteem, regard, and consideration is the first step. Just as charity begins at home, respect begins with oneself. You cannot give what you don’t have and you cannot respect another person without a healthy dose of self-respect. Without it, relationships are hopelessly lopsided and you will soon attempt to get from the relationship what must come from within. From self-respect comes the capacity to respect another and relationship is birthed.
MUTUAL RESPECT is the result. This critical element must flow freely through the relationship, from within yourself to the other individual and back to you again. It must continue unabated, nourishing the relationship in its life blood.
MUTUAL AFFECTION. A degree of fondness is necessary in any relationship that is going to endure past necessity. Many relationships based on self-interest, without honest affection, can exist briefly but only for a specific purpose.
However, those that endure beyond the reason for their beginnings will be those that develop a genuine and caring interaction, a fondness which grows from the other elements. The deeper the fondness, the more powerful the relationship.
Self interest, not to be confused with self-knowledge, is the enemy of all true affection. Mutual affection assumes a genuine concern for the other, and never with an “agenda.”
INTIMACY. Some would place intimacy with or even before affection, but the true personal and private familiarity that is intimacy grows from affection, and must be based on mutual respect. Today’s society mistakenly puts intimacy first, and is surprised when mutual respect and affection do not develop as a result. But true and lasting intimacy, beyond the physical, can only grow as a result of the first three elements.
COOPERATION. Operating in a common effort, in agreed unity of purpose, builds relationship strength as surely as any muscle building activity builds physical strength. We hear it from the time we are old enough to learn from Grover and big Bird, but many of us cast it aside when we outgrow the playground.
Cooperation implies accountability to something greater than the individuals, to the relationship itself. Focusing on this perspective will keep pride from sabotaging this necessary element.
MUTUAL TRUST will be the result. It is reliance based on the truthfulness, character, integrity, and the proven ability of the other individual, as experienced over time. Trust is always earned experientially and there’s no way around it. You cannot demand it and you cannot finagle it. You must make deposits to the account and only then can you withdraw the trust.
COMMITMENT TO THE RELATIONSHIP. Commitment is an agreement, a pledge [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and it must be fully engaged to count. It’s an all or nothing undertaking. It has been said that 100% commitment is easy. It’s 99% commitment that is difficult.
Commitment is nothi